If you are a cat owner, than you know that some cats are a little more loving than others. While the same is true of dogs, it sometimes takes a little more work to win our feline’s affection.

I know that when I adopted my beloved Sammy, he was a little skiddish at first. But, I won over his affection. It took some time but he did come around.

Some cats are harder than others to read …however, there are ways to win them over and/or read the signs. Cats tend to reserve their emotions and express them in subtle ways. Detecting your cat's emotions may be difficult, and your attempts to be affectionate with your cat may seem fruitless at first because your cat doesn't seem to notice. However, the key is to try to understand the body clues that your cat gives and then responding to him or her with the appropriate and affectionate gesture.

RELAXATION SIGNS

Look for signs of relaxation and contentedness. Your cat probably doesn't desire affection when it is anxious or actively doing something. You should wait for your cat to relax its tail, look you in the eyes and/or slant his eyes.

CAT RUBS

Pay attention when your cat rubs up against you or head butts you. Headbutting refers to the way in which a cat jerks his head into your leg or arm to get your attention. These signs are usually indicative of your cat's desire for affection. My Sammy strokes his head into my fist and loves it when I rub the side of his face. Weird, but, who am I to judge!

I love my face being stroked!

READ YOUR CAT’S BODY LANGUAGE

You can read your cat's body language and determine what the appropriate response should be. For example, if your cat looks restless and keeps nudging you, then he or she might want to play with a toy. If your cat lies in your lap and looks relaxed, then it might want to be stroked. And, usually, the double eye wink means you have won your cat over!

WATCH BEHAVIOR PATTERNS

Spend time with your cat doing what he or she wants to do as this will gain his trust and display affection. This may involve playing, petting, throwing a toy mouse or simply feeding your cat.

Watch for signs of what your cat likes and does not like and obviously go for the behavior that he or she likes. For instance, if you cat doesn't seem to like being pet on the stomach, then try to pet its head in the future. If your cat doesn't like a certain toy or scratch pad, then you might want to buy a new toy for him or her.

The most important thing to remember is that if you love your cat and treat him or her with affection, he or she will certainly come around. And, you will want more cats to add to your family.